Before a couple decides to marry, there are some key topics we all would advise they discuss. Areas like 'do you want children?' or 'do you unroll the toilet paper from the top or bottom?'. Many couples, however, fail to discuss a few other critical topics. The New York Times recently outlined 15 questions that couples should explore. The very first question is 'Have we discussed whether or not to have children [we knew this one already], and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?' Or, perhaps if both of you will share this! Number Three is 'Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?' (how about both of you together?) and down at Number Fourteen is 'If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other's family, are we prepared to move?'.
This is the stuff that builds an equal or an unequal marriage. With so many couples ending up in an unequal situation and being surprised about this turn of events, I hope that would-be brides and grooms take the 15 Question Test to heart and really explore their answers together.