Independence (Every) Day
We just celebrated the Fourth yesterday with a big nothing. It kind of snuck up on us this year, even though friends who asked "got any plans?" should have clued us in that a holiday was on the horizon. Our kids are a bit too young for fireworks yet - past their bedtime and rather scary. And M is just grasping the concept of a country and its birthday. So we're excused.
But this annual celebration of freedom reminded me that Amy and I appreciate our own kind of independence every day of the year. Because both of us can handle the kids and house tasks without any instruction, either is free to explore our worlds as time permits. We are hardly wild and crazy, since we both value family togetherness and really want to be with our kids and each other, but it is nice to know I could go out and have fun if the mood struck...with no guilt. The 'no guilt' part comes from the fact that I am not missing out on quality and quantity time with my kids and with Amy. If I worked long hours and left the bulk of the childraising and housework to Amy (or hired others to do these), I'd probably feel deep down that escaping to a baseball game or going for a long bike ride was yet another lost opportunity for family togetherness. But I don't, so I don't!
And now, if you'll excuse me, I'm off to meet a friend for some tennis....