Stand Up, Stand Up!
Stand up for your rights! Rights to co-parent your children, that is. Marc and I have come to believe that early in the life of an ESP couple, there comes the watershed moment. That moment where the father needs to shock the couple into reality. He needs to stand up strongly for his rights to equal time, equal decision-making, and equal involvement with his baby. If the mother is amenable to equal sharing, she'll be startled by the awakening, but able to recognize its importance and heed the message. She'll back off and allow him to parent his own way. If she isn't ready to put ESP into action, she'll balk and hold on. The couple's success at equality depends on both his willingness to stand up and her ability to let go.
ESP guys need to be up for this moment. And if necessary, they need to repeat it periodically to keep things on an equal track.
Do you have a watershed moment in your memory?