Equality Brings Emotional Closeness
A study of gay and lesbian couples shows that their relatively greater role flexibility and equal housework and childraising task division yield more emotional closeness between partners than that found in heterosexual relationships.
While I hear from gay ESP couples (and observe from the family arrangements of many of my own gay friends and colleagues) that equal sharing is not necessarily the norm, I suspect that ESP is more likely when genders are the same. This new study gives credence to my suspicion, and furthermore provides evidence that equal sharing is a great thing for a healthy relationship. Like music to my ears!
When a couple acts as equals, sharing all their burdens and joys, neither partner feels 'less than' and neither partner misses out on a part of family life. Both partners walk in each other's shoes every day. Empathy and equality bring closeness, intimacy and respect.
I'm happy to read proof that gay and lesbian parents can help us lead the way toward mainstream ESP.