Daddy/Mommy Dating
Valentine's Day must be the height of 'Daddy-Daughter Dance' season, or so this editorial from the Dallas Morning News describes. This rather odd event consists of fathers formally bonding with their female offspring in a date-like way - complete with over-the-top prom expenses for some. Most of what I've glanced at in the press about these events focuses on the 'awe, isn't that special' motif. But this particular editorial takes a different view - one that had me nodding in agreement.
Dads and daughters (or sons) don't need a special formal event to feel connected. In my opinion, a real and lasting connection is much better accomplished through everyday intimacy that doesn't cost a dime. The way this happens is by dads purposefully and regularly making time to be with their kids alone and getting to really know their kids. And by us moms stepping back to make room for this to happen.
Now there is nothing inherently wrong with a father and his daughter having a special evening out. Done right, such an event can create warm memories for both for years to come. However, I love the above-referenced editorial for pointing out that it is mom whom dad should date, not his daughter. If a man is going to spend a fortune of money or time on a night out, his partner should be first in line for the opportunity (and vice versa).
posted by Amy @ 1:43 PM
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